Shalini MurmuSo, you are getting all ready for your first date with the special someone you just met and thinking about what all you will talk about. But do you think about what not to talk about?
The first date is the first impression and can be a dealmaker or breaker. A bad first date is just the worst and probably means no more fun future date with the lovely person you just met. An instant turn-off on first dates is when you bring up some clearly controversial dating questions. Yes, you can be curious to get to the other person right away, but dating is a slow process, and not everything can be answered instantly.
So, here are 10 dating questions you should stay away from on your first date:
- Questions about the last relationship-
Questions such as “Why did your last relationship end? “Are you still in touch with your ex?” might just come across as an interrogation. It is better to keep these questions for a later date or talk about it only when the other person themselves offer to share this information.
- Asking them about their job or how much money they earn
The first date should never be about getting to know the financials of the person, but just to know them as a person. Asking them about the job, how much should they earn is not the impression you want to give them.
- Asking them about their childhood and family
A lot of people think that asking about childhood or family can be an instant way to connect with the other person. But if they’ve had a difficult childhood or family life , it can impact them or their response and how the date goes. Maybe keeping these very personal questions for some time later is always a good option.
- Asking them about their number
This means asking someone about how many people they have slept with and how many relationships they had before and whether they have had many partners or none at all. This question might make the other person feel uncomfortable and make them put the guard up for the rest of the date.
- Where do you see this relationship heading?
Even if the date is going well asking a question such as this will really throw off the person. The first date is usually premature and also a very nascent step, so taking it slow is important. Questions about your future dating will seem desperate or needy.
- Asking them about kids?
Yes, we all want people who have similar family goals such as ours. But the first date is not the place where you ask them if they want kids or not. Give it some time before you jump into such serious questions.
- Asking them about their hot friends
It is obviously a big turn off when you are asking your date about their hot friends. So, keep your attention focused on the person sitting in front of you instead of asking them questions about their hot friend.
- Questions such as “Do you like me”, or “Do you think I’m attractive?”
Of course, your date thinks you’re attractive and that’s why they are out with you, but asking this question bluntly can be a little off putting, especially on a first date. It will also show that you need reassurance and lack self-confidence.
- “What is your political stance?”
Asking someone about their political stance on the first date is a big No as politics can be a sensitive issue at times. Maybe saving these questions for later or discovering the answers slowly as you get to know each other is a better option.
- “Have you been cheated on?”
Well, that one is a really personal question and one that definitely need not be asked at the first date or later. Cheating can be a sensitive issue and the smart move would be to not ask this question at all.
Dating is a tricky game and can take time to truly become something meaningful. But, the first date is very important as it sets the ground for the future of your relationship. Make sure that you set the right impression on your first date, keep it light and have a great time. These 10 dating questions should definitely be avoided if you want to have a great time.
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